Thursday, December 27, 2007
Can this explain the distorted phenomenon of encouraging people "to be yourself"?
"A person who lacks a stable center feels an urgent need to fill the gap—he needs something to orient himself as he tries to navigate to the world. Since he cannot use the limbic tools that penetrate to the core of self and others, he will look to external cues—those he can be sure about" (Lewis et al., 2000, A general theory of love, p. 211).
「做自己」或「活出自己」應是自我內在的課業：去認知自己根源、純粹的喜惡、個人特質、限制與潛能；而非灌輸自己愛做甚麼就做甚麼的想法，或者光在外貌上加油添醋、「標新立異」。矛盾地，"be yourself" 的美意，現在成了鼓勵追求時髦，去穿上最流行的衣服、背起最新款的背包、聽唱最新發行的「制服」歌曲、吸收並擅用不知道是誰發起的觀念和口號…，結果，關起門以為自己獨特，走到街上，其實和別人無異。
Do you feel where is "yourself"?
# posted by Chao=Sabiy : 9:40 PM
